(15) Pearls of Life
Wayne Dyer How To Get What You Really, Really Want
Be Part of Your Organization
You’re part of a team. The family, the company, the committee-I don’t know what teams you belong to but you certainly should. The word team may not be the one that springs to mind when I mention some of those things, but it should be. You need to view any cohesive group you belong to as a team. This comes more naturally to some people than others, but you can learn to do it.
The rest of the group all like a team player. So do you, when it comes to the other people involved. You’ll be far better regarded if people can see that you’re one of them. Because what’s the alternative?
To see the group as a separate entity, to refer to the company or the committee as “them” rather than “us.” People notice these things, you know. If you’re not part of the team, not talking about “we,” not identifying with its successes-and its failures-you’re distancing yourself from it. That’s not friendly is it? Nor is it loyal.
This is important but usually easy with your family. Hopefully you’ve always felt like one of the clan. It can be more of a challenge at work though, and with other “official” commitments. But that’s where it matters most. If you want to get the best out of other people, and get them on your side, it’s crucial that you don’t give the impression that there’s more than one side to be on. If you’re all pulling together, all part of the same gang, they’ll appreciate your input and want to give you all the support you need.
Work Hard
There’s no substitute.
People want to help those who help themselves by working hard. If you want support you need to show that you’re making most of the running yourself. No one’s going to work hard on your behalf if they can see you twiddling your thumbs.
I’m not telling you to work 24 hours a day without respite. You need to do other things as well as work. Rest and play, obviously-everyone knows that. But you should put in plenty of working hours, and when your time is allocated to work, that’s precisely what you do. Listen, no one owes you anything. We get what we want by a combination of a bit of luck and a lot of hard work. If you want stuff, you work. Simple as that.
Work Right
Hard work is crucial, but it has to be the right kind of hard work. No, I can’t tell you what that is because it’s different for everyone. And many’s the hard worker who feels aggravated at not being promoted because they put in more hours than anyone else on the team (but didn’t actually meet their targets). If you want things, you need to make sure that you’re investing your energy in the right direction. It’s not about effort in, but about results out. How you spend your working time should be determined by the results you need to achieve. If you can achieve those results without trying, you’ve set your targets too low. Remember, people must see you working as hard as they do, or they won’t want to work even harder to help you when it’s needed. So work out what you need to do to get what you want-the evening classes you need to attend, the sales you need to achieve, the bills you need to pay off, the qualifications you need to gain, the weight you need to lose. Then think about exactly where you need to put the effort in to make it actually happen. What will be crucial? That’s where you need to invest all that hard work.
